Thursday, December 27, 2007
~ So disappointed on so many different Levels... ~
Two days after Christmas and only now, I feel as I can talk about this. Christmas in general was ok. On my birthday the 23rd, My mom took my kids, my nephews, my niece, herself and I to a hotel in Carmel. The reason being she wanted to spend the next day with my Grandma whom lives in Carmel and she was not sure how the weather was going to be. And she wanted to be nice and have us go some where. There had been plans for us to go to Florida, however she had changed them due to the lack of money. It was going to be a Christmas present to everyone. So, she wanted us just to get away, even if it was some where not so far away.
That was good. We had a nice time. We went shopping and in the morning the hotel had a giant breakfast we all partook in. And the next day, we got present ready for my grandma. Then we drove to her place to spend time with her. She is in a wheelchair due to both of her legs being amputated. And, it had been a while since I had seen her. It is not that I do not want to see her, because I do. It is just that I have the girls all the time and they like to run around and do as kids like to do. And she has a LOT of little things for them to get into and break. So, I do not get to see her as much as I would like. I know she would like to see the kids more as well.
We came home late that evening. And I had called my ex to see if he was indeed coming over to see the kids on Christmas. Calling him was not something I wanted to do. It was more of a duty. Since my kids had not seen him in over 2 months, except for a week before Christmas when he came over. Boy, was that a fiasco! With his ex girlfriend calling him on his cell phone and he giving me the phone telling me to tell her that I was with him again. I took the phone and said, "He wants me to tell you that we are back together, but I can not lie. And I would never take him back ever again!" The girl was crying. And get this people he is so rude to his ex she is in a wheelchair and he treats her like dirt!
So, she hung up. Of course she called again. And again. And he decided to leave and give me his prepaid phone so, she could never call him again. And call she did. A lot. I told her everything about him. All she could say was, "I didn't even know him." And I laughed and said, "Yeah, you were with him like what.. a whole month? I was with him for almost 6 years and I did not know him. So, good luck figuring him out."
That was not Christmas though. That was the week before. However, he promised my girls that he would be there for Christmas. And he called 2 or 3 more times the week asking my daughter what she wanted. It was really a simple request. She wanted a Game Boy Advanced SP with The Little Mermaid game. She had really gotten a liking to the Chicken Little game of her cousin's. She wanted her own.
Now, this man that has not paid child support or even really cared to see them or call them in 2 1/2 months. I figured it was a small request he could take care of. He got a job about 3 weeks ago and he told me that he makes about $850.00 a week. He is only ordered to pay, $96.00 a week. And that is not each kid that is for the both of them. His mean ass can not even do that.
So, I thought if anything he could handle this shit. Right. I thought wrong. I was lucky he did show up. Because, I really thought he would do a no show. Anyhow, I called him the night before and he promised he would show. I told him he better since the girls were all excited for him to show.
He did show. He did not buy her the Game Boy Advance. He, bought them each a 2 pack Family Dollar price tag on the box Horse set for each other them. And the box said for ages 4 and up. My one daughter is not even 2. And, he gave my older daughter a dog purse. He spent about $15.00 if even that much. I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that the purse was $9.00. The purse did not have a tag on it.
He told me that he had to spend all his money on his other girlfriend and he did not have the cash nor, did he get to go shopping for the girls. He went shopping for the woman he goes with now and her kids... PLEASE. She is in her late 30's and she has a teenage son of 16. And another kid. Age is unknown. Again, I am disappointed on how a man can be so cruel and not caring.
You probably are reading this and think that I am a hateful person. And that all I am is money hungry. You have no clue on how far from the truth that is. It has really taken it out on me having to take care of kids with no support. And my parents have helped out a great deal. If it had not been for them, the kids would have had a horrid Christmas.
I feel bad for my kids. I really do. I always had my dad around. My parents are still married. I did not have to worry about this. My kids do. Dad, shows up so rarely in their small little lives. Just enough for them to know he exists and when they want him more, he leaves and makes them cry. Did I mention he was here like 15 minutes on Christmas for his kids. I did not say anything to him mean and hateful. We were actually joking around. Him on the other side of the room of course.
He did stay 5 minutes more than he did last week. That visit was a whole 10 minutes. He has just changed so much it is crazy. I do not even know where to go with it. So, that was Christmas. Oh, we went to my parents and they got my kids some presents. So, they had an ok Christmas. They talked about their dad all day. And how he promised he would be back in a couple days and get her a Game Boy Advance. I doubt that will happen. It has already been 2 days....